Arbitrary Days

So the above thing popped up on my TL so a short explainer from me explaining my perspective:

These days are arbitrary & just "social" made up norms. Who cares? I doubt when it really matters someone wouldn't be there for their spouse. Ladies need to stop worrying about these random days as yardstick for love. Though it will never happen.

Secondly: humans are tribal. It is in our dna. Supporting football teams is just a modern version of that. We men love sports. It is one of the first things we fall in love with & it gives us a sense of purpose & community to play sports & support teams in groups.

So of course because of the above we are going to be loving our team forever (or hating). Men are tribal. Men love the belonging in teams. It is fun. This does mean we will abandon our duty to family WHEN it really matters of course, jokes aside.

Ladies need to understand that this isn't about them at all & no need to get emotional about it, we are just, different. Different things drive us but good men will show up when needed, not for vanity. Usually we don't care about "days". And I don't think in the op she meant football same day as valentines. Anyways, forgetting & ignoring are 2 different things & "days" should not be overlooked for overall love. I don't know the full context of why the couple broke up, I am sure there was more to it. But this is how dudes think in general. Men should not be burdened with doing special things constantly on special days. Appreciate the good they do on non special days as well, like taking care of business around the house or their work. Boring stuff, but that is more special. Showing up is underrated.

PS: This is not defending toxic behavior before someone comes at me😀.